It really bothers me that so many prejudices still exist in this land that we call free. I don't just mean the kind that is based on race but all sorts. Just today I sat here in my home and was talking to one of my daycare parents. She came in totally beside herself because of the fact that she is being harassed at work. She is very heavy set and not the brightest crayon in the box but nonetheless a very sweet woman who loves her family and works hard to make ends meet. She is white and her husband is Hispanic. They aren't exactly the typical American family but in my opinion that doesn't or shouldn't matter. Her co-workers were teasing her and making snide remarks about her being slow. Saying things such as the fat is blocking the oxygen to her brain and so forth. Aside from that, she doesn't get the calls that come in for her from her husband. They tell her that if he can't speak clearly then they can't transfer the phone call. How freakin immature can you get? Well, I sat and listened to her with tears in my eyes because I just don't understand how anyone could be so cruel. In general conversation I ask her if they were people that she got along with at one point and time(she has been there for over 10 years). Her reply was "Not really they 're stupid bl… well just different kind of people". Ummm, ok. I wasn't sure what to say at that point and I regardless of the color of her skin, my skin, her husbands skin or my childrens skin… money is green and I need all of the green I can get. For that reason I had to keep my personal opinions about her statement to myself. It about killed me but I had to put family first. I wanted so badly to explain to her that she was a part of the horrible snowball effect that causes racisms and prejudices to continue to roll on. It is feelings like that of both her and her co-workers that keep the hatred alive and burning. It's sad to say but I don't think it is really possible to ever have a united nation that is really united. She has never met my husband and my guess is she thinks he is Spanish because of the way my girls and Brandon look, most people do. I don't bother to tell people unless they ask because in my eyes it's just not important.
Aside from my experience with her I have had one of my closest friends spurt out racial remarks about an African American female that was making her way into her family unit. I don't want to go into details about it but I will say that this person knew my husband well and didn't realize that what she said was extremely offensive to me. I don't want nor do I expect an apology. It is how she felt and for her to apologize would be a waste of time and further offend me by the lie. I did however put a certain distance between us because of it. I am no longer able to feel as comfortable around her as I used to. Do people not realize that racism shines through regardless of the fake smiles and sweet hello's the greet you with? Apparently not!
I am so glad that I am able to raise my children with the knowledge and understanding that people are human being and the pigmentation of a person's skin has absolutely NO bearing on weather they are a good or a bad person. There is nothing wrong with culture and being proud of who you are and where you come from. However, if you expect respect…respect others. I find this to be yet another fine example of Karma. Pay it forward people. Love one another and maybe the "other" will love the one you love. Make sense?
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