Friends Come In All Different Shapes And Sizes By: Donna Worthy
Lately I have really been thinking about my friends and what the meaning of friendship really is. I listen to my girls talk about their "issues" with the other kids at school and I realize how drastic of a change we make over the years. All that used to matter doesn't anymore and most of the things that I felt so strongly about back then mean little or nothing to me now. For instance, I can remember the day when pleasing my friends and compromising who I was seemed to be okay. I wanted to make people happy with me and I was great at faking a smile and being compliant when inside I really wanted to go off into my own little world. I guess I went from one extreme to the other. I no longer feel the need to fake my friendship or pretend to be okay with something or someone when I simply AM NOT okay with it or them at all. This doesn't mean that I feel my way is the right way and there should be no other way. It does however mean that I won't hold on to something or someone because I fear that they will dislike me or think badly of me if I disagree with them. I still don't like to hurt people's feelings (not many people do) so I tend to avoid confrontation by simply removing whatever toxicity there is from my life. Sure, we all have hard times but if there is anything I have learned in my life its that tough love is a necessity for us all. We all need to learn lessons through pain at times and we all need to face the truth when we want to the least.
My friends have come in all sorts and shapes. Some close, some not so close, some fake and some of them are the most genuine people I could ask for. I thank God for all of them and the parts that they have played in my life. I also thank God for making me wise enough to differentiate between true friends and those who are meant to simply teach me a quick lesson. God is good and he has made my life full of so many blessing. For that I am thankful!
Not to get to far off of the subject but I think it is important to mention that I am SO thankful that he has blessed me with the ability to see the beauty in all different colors and races of people. To be able to proudly say that I am NOT one to judge someone by the color of their skin or the accent they may carry. He has blessed me with the courage to be 100% honest about how I feel about all races and to NEVER consciously or unconsciously teach my children that one race is better than any other!
I'm also so thankful that he has made me a woman that strives to handle her own each and every day. I may be a little on the hard headed side at times but that makes me who I am and without that stubborn side I wouldn't be me. God blessed me with a strong backbone and made me able to stand on my own two feet at anytime….WITHOUT the assistance of a man! He gave me the energy and the health to get up and go forth in the world of working women and still be the best mom I can be to my kids! When I look in the mirror I surely don't see the figure that I wish I had but I know that inside I am pretty darn close to where I should be at this point in my life. No excuses, no fronts, no one pulling the wool over my eyes makes me just who I should be !
I love my life, my friends, my family and most importantly, GOD. I am blessed to be me!
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